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In all probability as you walked
through your path of life you had
moments when you felt
really proud and other moments when you
felt
kind of guilty or even shamed I’d like
to address
in case you ever have a moment of
feeling guilty about something
I’d like to address what exactly is
guilt uh
how is it created and how is it
dissolved
i know that if you go through life and
you’re carrying around guilt it can
affect you economically
because people who do tend to minimize
themselves and have difficulties
receiving money and holding onto money
and they become consumers and buyers and
altruistic givers to others to
compensate for their guilt
and so dissolving that can be very very
valuable to you
so let’s address that and let’s look at
some practical things you can do to deal
with guilt
first let’s define it guilt the way i
define it
is an assumption that you have
caused with your motor functions and
actions with some actions of your body
or at least in your memory in the past
more pain and pleasure or loss and gain
more negative than positive more
challenged and support
more risk and reward or more
disadvantage and advantage
to somebody if you feel guilty you’re
assuming
that what you’ve done has caused more
pain and pleasure to somebody
now in the universe there’s always a
balance there’s never a pain without a
pleasure
there’s never a loss without a gain
there’s never a window shut without a
window opening
there’s never one side of defense all
events always have a pair of opposites
so anytime you’re carrying around guilt
it’s because you’ve assumed
that there’s still only a drawback to
the person you’ve done the action to
a loss to them so if you feel guilty
it’s wise to first define specifically
what specifically did you do
or not do in some cases that is leading
you to the feeling of guilt
maybe let me give an example maybe your
mother uh
is sick and you weren’t there for her
while she was sick
or maybe your son had a baseball game
and you weren’t able to be there for the
baseball game
or maybe you were there late at work and
a big
deal just passed by and did get to do it
because you weren’t there
anytime you think you’ve done something
that caused more pain and pleasure more
loss and gain more negative than
positive
you could be running the feelings of
guilt
so here’s what you do identify
specifically what you feel you did
that you feel guilty about identify who
specifically
you feel is affected because guilt has a
what i call a vector a direction to it
to a specific person
or group of people find out exactly who
it is you feel guilty to
and then ask this question what
specifically is the benefits
of my action or inaction specifically to
those individuals that are being
affected
and do not stop until the amount of
benefits
equal the amount of drawbacks and you
may have to get creative about it
and look in all seven areas of life
spiritually how did it help them
mentally how to help them in their
career how to help them
and their finances how to help them in
their family or relationships how to
help them
socially how to help them or their
physical health how to help them
just keep going around the wheel and ask
how specifically did my action or
inaction help them specifically
and don’t stop until you can see enough
benefits there and
as the benefits accumulate and as you
drop those benefits down
you’re going to discover that there is
always a benefit with every
drawback there’s always fair opposites
and once you balance that equation
you will not feel guilt you can even do
a reverse psychology and go one step
further
you can even ask if i had not done what
i had done
and i had done what i thought i should
have done or hoped to have done
what would have been the drawback and if
you get the drawbacks of the way you
think you should have acted
and the benefits of the way you acted
and keep doing those and asking those
questions you’ll find out that the guilt
is completely dissolvable
every week i do a program called the
breakthrough experience and every week i
help people dissolve shame and guilt
and it is such a simple thing to
dissolve and people carry around
those types of baggages for days weeks
months years or decades
and it takes minutes no more than hours
to dissolve
the quantity of lifespace and quality
questions you ask if you ask the right
questions and i just gave you those
you’ll dissolve the same guilt that
you’re experiencing
and if for some reason as you’re doing
it you’re running into a blank
because you’re holding on to the shame
and the emotions are running you instead
of your reason
and you have difficulty with that call
our offices call the democracy institute
and sign up for the breakthrough
experience that program
i teach the demartini method in and in
there there’s a specific series of
questions that we train
everybody who attends on how to dissolve
exactly that the shame and guilt that
they’re carrying around
that’s holding him back financially
holding him back feeling worthy of great
relationships
holding it back and and opportunities
shaming ill can erode
the opportunities for your life and it’s
such a simple thing to dissolve so come
to the breakthrough experience
and let me show you how to dissolve it
and that way any time it ever rises in
your life you know exactly what to do
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